Ladies and gentlemen of Discernment are observing the centennial of the sinking of the RMS Titanic this weekend. Please note Etiquetteer's choice of verb; one does not "celebrate" the death of over 1,500 people. The rerelease of director James Cameron's epic, Oscar-winning, fictional account of the disaster at this time is also cause to note the many errors of period manners scripted into the film. Some, of course, were added for effect, such as the gigantic array of silverware at Jack Dawson's place in the first-class dining saloon. Others are just plain mistakes not likely to be caught or contemplated by the film's key audience - emotional 14-year-old girls. So, kindly bear with Etiquetteer during this exercise. (Etiquetteer is really doing his best to remain focused on etiquette errors, rather than errors of fact. For instance, Rose points out Benjamin Guggenheim in the first class dining saloon with his mistress, Madame Aubart. But Madame Aubart's ticket didn't include meals, so she (and presumably Mr. Guggenheim) would have dined in the a la carte restaurant. You see Etiquetteer's dilemma.)
There are two overarching Errors of Perfect Propriety throughout the film. First, Rose DeWitt Bukater (Kate Winslet) never wears a hat on board ship when other ladies are hatted. For all Etiquetteer knows, it was part of Ms. Winslet's contract only to wear that stunning black hat when boarding the ship. But a young lady of the Main Line traveling to her wedding would have been properly dressed -- especially when traveling with her fierce mother (Frances Fisher).
Second, passengers are smoking all over the ship, when in fact smoking would have been confined to smoking rooms in each class. This happens so much Etiquetteer doesn't even want to enumerate the instances, but the most egregious Lapse of Perfect Propriety occurs when Cal Hockley (Billy Zane) tries to light up in the first-class dining saloon, leading Jack Dawson (Leonardo DiCaprio) to toss him a box of matches. Well-bred gentlemen never smoked in the presence of ladies at this time. It would take World War I to lead people to break down barriers about smoking. (Rose would have known that the only Perfectly Proper place to smoke was the first-class smoking room. Allegedly men only, it is said that the Titanic's smoking room was penetrated by Mrs. Henry B. Harris and Charlotte Cardeza at least once.)
And now, some specific errors:
The costumers decided to ignore the cold hard fact of the cold hard temperatures of the mid-Atlantic in April. Everyone on deck is underdressed for the weather! There should be a lot more fur coats, knitted caps, shawls, etc. than one sees. Jack Dawson ought to have frostbite and chilblains after that whole "I'm king of the world!" thing.
Trudy Bolt (Amy Gaipa), the lady's maid for Rose and her mother, is shown incorrectly wearing a maid's uniform. A lady's maid had sufficient status as a servant to wear her own (very plain) clothes while traveling, without an apron. She was also properly addressed by her last name, not her first, the same way a butler is called by his last name. It's worth noting that the Titanic included a private lounge for the servants of first-class passengers.
In real life, Margaret Brown (Kathy Bates) was much more accepted in Best Society. The whole "Unsinkable Molly Brown" thing got started after her death.
As Mrs. Brown passes Rose and her mother to the elevator, we see the latter ladies in full evening dress on the way to the dining saloon. What the writers have failed to remember is that no one dressed for dinner on the first night out, or the last. Presumably this was because one's servants were still unpacking, or packing. Anyone showing up in full dress on the first night would have been pegged as a parvenu on his or her first appearance.
During the first dinner scene in the first-class dining saloon, a gentleman sitting next to Mrs. Dewitt Bukater is seen gesturing with his oyster fork. Well-bred ladies and gentlemen were taught (and should still be taught) never to gesture with their utensils! You could put someone's eye out at worst, or even propel a gobbet of food onto someone's clothes.
Etiquetteer recognizes that it's necessary for the plot, but the idea of a young gentleman going into his fiancée's bedroom in his pajamas ... gracious sakes! Even having them share a suite like that is stretching Perfect Propriety, especially since it appears her mother is not sharing her stateroom.
Only the vulgar seek out such large stones ... which explains the Duchess of Windsor.
"Philadelphia Society" is not correct. "Main Line Society" is correct.
J. Bruce Ismay, smoking in the Palm Court. Not possible! He would only have done so in the smoking room (see above).
That whole spitting lesson thing absolutely strains credulity.
At a dinner table that large, conversation would not have been general, simply because one would have to shout to be heard at the other end of the table (and this was a public dining room). One talked one's neighbor on one side during the first course and the other side during the next course, alternating throughout the meal. This is called "turning the table" and if done properly means that no one is left out of the conversation.
Oh, Etiquetteer does love Frances Fisher! God bless the grandes dames of yore, who knew how to put a climber in the proper place.
It would have been much too cold for Rose to breakfast on that private promenade deck in that practically sleeveless negligée.
Inconceivable that Rose would make a "splendid gesture" like that to a servant.
Thank you for indulging Etiquetteer in this little exercise.